Many people I speak to are disappointed with their online dating results. Typically, these people have very high expectations about internet-based dating sites – they expect to meet the ‘love of their life’ simply by joining a particular site, then doing a few searches, and sending a couple of messages to other site members they like the look of.
Use a Persuasive Headline – Don’t just plaster your name and title as your get fit headline. Add a short slogan or benefit you provide. Compare the two headlines below and decide which one would capture your interest more.
Guys prefer challenges to easy conquests. They won’t be interested if something is given freely and readily. So if you want to get guys to reply to your ad or send you a private message online then you must make sure you don’t sound desperate on your profile. Even if you’re truly desperate to find a guy to date, they don’t have to know that.
Experience and Skills – Be sure to list all your experience and skills using relevant keywords. Be thorough, precise and complete when describing your skills and your experience. Be sure to be grammatically correct and proofread every sentence.
The number one, numero uno, first and absolute most important bit of online profile flirting advice we can give you is this: You absolutely MUST appear interesting rather than interested. Of course, by virtue of you even being online chatting to them, it is obvious your interested, so it is even more important to give the girls the impression that you are fun and mysterious and are simply out there to have fun. It’s almost as if the girl has to try and impress YOU. This is not to say that in order to create an air of mystery you should project a boring personality. Instead, give girls the Trailer rather than the whole Movie…
I do, however, teach men and women how to transform their mediocre profiles into expressions of greatness. All the time. You see, were I to write your blasted “essay” for you the real problem might actually be exacerbated rather than helped.
Why is this important? Because it helps us visualize you on the job doing what you do during the day and it helps us to connect with that image and with you. It further defines who you are and helps us figure out if we want to connect with you. If you are a butcher and the woman reading your profile is a member of PETA and a staunch vegetarian then why waste time emailing and chatting and then meeting if she knows in her heart of hearts that this will never work?
If your date hasn’t deleted his or her dating profile and you’ve been dating for some time, you can bring it up but you shouldn’t press. Let the other person make their mind up whether or not to delete it. If you force them to get rid of the profile, that could backfire. They might resent you for it. It’s best to let the relationship evolve and to trust the other person. If you two are meant to be, your date will get rid of his or her profile in due time. Relationships are based on trust, remember? If you don’t trust the other person, you have no business being with them, whether they have an active profile or not.